valentini

Today is one of most hated days of the year.  Which is ironic, seeing as the day is dedicated to love.  Well done, society.

I must admit that I have joined in on the Valentine's Day hating too.  Why do we hate it so much though?  It's really not different from any other day of the year--there are single people on February 15th and there are overly passionate couples on February 13th...so there's really nothing special about the 14th to love or hate.
But we've still constructed this silly notion that the 14th of February has to be some magnanimous lovers' event, whether we participate in it or not.

What this results in, more than anything, is people getting their hopes up unreasonably.  I'm not saying that we should avoid hoping, because that would lead to avoiding living, but that we should be reasonable about it all.  For example, if you are single and not currently dating anybody, and not really making much of an effort in the dating scene in general...don't get your hopes up that some fairy tale is going to come along and just happen to you.

If you want to hope for something, you have a degree of obligation, then, to work to make it happen.  Wishing on stars is nice, but it just sets you up for disappointment when you don't do anything about it, and then your wishes never come true.
Funny how that works.

So, we hate Valentine's Day, but it's a little bit of our own faults. Which sucks.

What I suggest we do about this is start loving Valentine's Day. I mean, it's a day dedicated to love...but nobody said that had to be the lustful kind of love. 

Basically I'm saying use the day as an excuse to do something special for your friends and family and other loved ones.  Bake cookies, make a card, eat ice cream, watch horror films...

And if you've been caught down in the woes of "she doesn't know I exist" lately...DO something.  If you're waiting for a Valentine's Day surprise, sitting around is not going to make it happen.  Use the silly holiday you're so fond of as an excuse to do something nice for someone that normally you would have to think up a reason for to avoid looking stupid.

"Hi, I just wanted to stop by and say hi, and....I have no reason to do this other than I want to be with you"

versus

"Hi, i just wanted to say hi and Happy Valentine's Day, and I was wondering if you'd eaten lunch yet? I was just heading to the café...wannna go together?"

One of them sounds so much more reasonable...and promising.

And if you want to get in on the real love, send them a nice nerdy card. :D

So don't hate the day, and don't be so bitter about the situation.  Find a way to love today that fits the love you have.

Happy Valentine's Day, my blog readers. :)  I appreciate you guys!